It’s almost 60 degrees Fahrenheit here on Long Island! WHAT?!! THIS IS AWESOME!!!
A few days each week, I meet one of my clients at a local gym, and we work out together. This particular gym has a strict ‘no coaches/trainers’ policy (they must have a dozen signs from the entrance to the room we use saying just that!), so we have to keep up appearances by having me join in the fun. I usually go to these sessions in shorts and a T-shirt, and since it’s been so cold here up until the past few days, it had been torture! Today, I actually felt comfortable, and had my windows down while driving to and from that appointment to the next. Great success!
Now then, earlier today, I was texting with a client on my Nutrition Program. To learn more about that, as well as the other services I offer, please go to www.weightlossbypete.com/services. Anyway, she just got back from a long vacation, and she’s had trouble getting back on track since her return. Earlier today, I received the below text. Of course, she gave me permission to post the image(s) before I started writing this to you:
Ah, yes – The dreaded worry about hurting a host’s feelings! After a bit more back-and-forth, I told her that she can avoid all that by telling her hosts that she’s not going to be eating foods made with certain ingredients. This should be done far enough in advance so that the hosts have time to figure out what dishes to make in preparation for their meeting. The next bit of our exchange can be found below:
To fill you in on the first message, I used the example of how one of my relatives is vegetarian, and that when she attends a home-based party, certain preparations have to be made in order to insure she’ll actually eat something.
Anyway, it’s easy to say essentially the same thing that she was afraid to say in the beginning. It’s just a shift in your language. Sure, there are plenty of diets that tell you to cut out bread. But what I’ve taught her, as well as my other clients and group members, is that this CAN’T be a diet for you! If it’s a diet, what’re you going to do when you reach your goal? I’ll tell you what: That yo-yo phenomenon that so many people worldwide deal with when it comes to both their weight and their health! They go from one diet to the next, one exercise program to the next, and can’t sustain the results that they’d attained because it was all quick-fix B.S.!!
It’s a vicious cycle..
Getting back, simply changing your wording from ‘I’m on a diet, so I’m staying away from bread right now…,’ to ‘I don’t eat bread, so can you please make a few things that don’t include bread or bread crumbs?’ is all that has to be done! Obviously, if the hosts are THAT curious (I’d venture to guess that they’re not – I know I wouldn’t be!), and they ask her why she wants dishes devoid of bread, THEN she can explain how bread is detrimental to your health, is inflammatory, has NO nutritional value, and thus, she doesn’t want to fuel her body with that kind of garbage!
The real-world client example I showed you above is for a get-together where the hosts are personally prepping the food. You’re probably wondering what happens if you’re attending an event that’s catered, like a Bar/Bat Mitzvah, a communion, or a wedding?
In those instances, you need to come prepared! If this event is at a nearby venue, or if the party is late enough in the day that you’re able to go from wherever you’re staying to one of either a grocery store or a restaurant in advance, eat a meal and/or a snack that you know is healthy BEFORE heading into the event. This will really negate any cravings you have for the bad-for-you, delicious appetizers that may be shoved in your face every 10 seconds once you enter the party hall.
If you’re close with the hosts of the party, ask them if they can share what will be served by the caterers, and make an educated decision based on that. Sometimes, you’ll be surprised, and there will be (bits of) a dish that you can actually eat! If there’s not, then follow Step 1 above.
To briefly expand on Step 1, too, you can either leave a healthy snack in the car, or, if you’re a female, bring it in with you in your purse. Grab a plate, throw some crap being served on it (whether you’re eating it or not is irrelevant), and add your snack onto the plate so nobody is the wiser. If you’re a guy, and your plus one is a female, then have her keep your snack in her bag, and follow the steps I just laid out. If you don’t have a female companion who can hold onto your snack, I hope that Ziploc bag fits in your jacket pocket, buddy!
Have a great weekend. Chat with you Monday 😉
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