It’s a cool, sunny day here on Long Island, and while my in-person client appointments may be a few hours from being finished for the day, I still have a Strategy Session and my Weight Loss Accountability Group calls tonight! The fun doesn’t stop, even with the holidays fast approaching 😉
Being that tonight’s Weight Loss Accountability Group call is going to be based around how to stay motivated on your journey, I figured we can cover that in today’s message, too. The ol’ ‘kill two birds with one stone’ rationale…
A lot of folks start on this path for the right reasons, whether it’s for their health, it’s for improving their job performance, it’s for their kids, or it’s for improving their relationship with their significant other. The motivations behind the start are seemingly there, so what’s needed next? Well, a plan!
How are you going to lose the weight? What exercise practices will you begin incorporating on a regular basis? How much sleep are you going to get each night? How are you going to clean up your diet so that your quest is going to finish with nothing but sweet victory?
Obviously, this is where it gets tough, as a simple Google search will give you hundreds of different answers to each one of these points…
That being said, it’s important that you put together your approach in each one of these physical areas (if you want a good starting point, download my FREE report on the five strategies I personally used to lose 100 lbs here: www.weightlossbypete.com/5strategies), and that you begin to ACT on this approach!
There will be ups and downs along the way, but the key to moving forward is to show up EVERY, SINGLE, DAY, regardless of the curveballs that life throws at you. Sometimes, we create our own curveballs, allowing life to happen to us, and using these ‘happenings’ to fall off the wagon. A relevant example: Holiday parties. ‘I wasn’t planning on eating a tray-full of gingerbread cookies and drinking a shitload of egg nog, but it was right in front of me! What was I supposed to do?!’
Sounds funny when you read that, right? I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard it over the years., and the person actually kept a straight face while he/she said it..
Even the best of us will allow the train to tip over from time-to-time. The ones who see consistent success are the ones who shake off the temporary derailment, fix the track, and keep on chugging along. These people don’t make excuses for themselves – Instead, they own up to their shortcomings, learn from them, and move forward as both a stronger and a wiser person because of them.
One thing I do NOT allow ANY of my clients or group members to say (at least not without a great deal of flack in return for their making this statement) is that they’re going to ‘try.’ ‘Trying’ is the verbal equivalent to giving a half-assed effort knowing full-well that you’re never going to follow through 100%. It’s saying that you’ll give things a go, and that if the path isn’t as clear and easy as sitting on the couch, watching Netflix and eating takeout, then you’ll try again in 3-6 months when ‘conditions improve.’
When you ‘try,’ you’re giving yourself an out. Let me tell you a personal story that, even a few years ago, would have humiliated me to share with you:
As you probably know from my upbringing, I didn’t start playing sports until I was 12. Unlike one of my brothers, who merely has to watch someone’s mechanics and movements once before he can gracefully replicate them, I am NOT naturally athletic or coordinated. For some reason, after my pediatrician fat-shamed me towards starting to exercise in my pre-teens, I decided to take my hand at playing baseball.
There’s an argument in the sports world that hitting a baseball is the single most difficult athletic task one can attempt in the world. You have someone standing a little over 60 feet from you, throwing a tiny ball between 90-100 mph, often with movement. As a hitter, you’re expected to line that pitch up and hit it hard somewhere. Succeeding just 30% of the time for 10 or more years puts you in line to landing a spot in the hall of fame if you’re a Major League Player.
As you can imagine, hitting a baseball, and playing the sport somewhat competently took me a LONG time…
After playing on the C and B teams, respectively, during my last two years of junior high school, I tried out for the baseball team every single year of high school. Freshman year, I didn’t make it. Sophomore year, I got injured early in tryouts, and pulled myself out. Junior year, I was put on the Junior Varsity team filled with underclassmen, and was the only upperclassman to be put on it. The reason for this according to the coach was that I had no experience playing for the school, and that the Varsity team was oversaturated with guys with which he knew what to expect.
Despite the promise that if I played well I would get called up if needed, I ended up tearing my MCL a few games into my junior season, and that never even had the chance to happen. My senior year, I made the Varsity team, rode the bench the first half of the year, and when the playoffs were out of reach, I was plugged into the lineup. I actually hit pretty well, and even though it was only for about half the season, I finally felt like all that hard work had paid off.
Most people in my situation would have probably tried out their first two years, and after not making it, would have thrown in the towel (I know this because I know many people who did just that!). Heck, the more stubborn ones may have been put on a team with underclassmen their junior years, and would have said, ‘Screw this! I’m not humiliating myself by playing with these younger kids.’ The difference was I really wanted to play for the school. It was a goal I’d made for myself, and it’s something that I worked very hard on my own, with a private hitting coach, and with a personal trainer towards attaining. No matter how humiliating it was to be cut or to be put with kids 1-2 years younger than me, I didn’t stop until I made the team I wanted to make, and got the playing time I wanted.
Not going to lie to you: I thought about quitting a million times! Not every player on either team was accepting of my ambition – Quite the contrary! I grew up in an affluent area with a bunch of snobby adults and kids alike. If you weren’t at a certain level in an endeavor, you were shunned, and you were implored to leave the group, and go do something else. I didn’t want to do anything else, and I used their rejection as my motivation to finally make the team and to contribute in some way.
This is the same initial motivation I had on my 100 lb weight loss journey. As you’ve probably heard a million times, it took over five years, and it had its fair share of ups and downs. Many people in a similar predicament have NOT even hit triple-digits in weight lost. There are many who have, and yet have fallen off the wagon and gained all the weight back, and then some (hello Biggest Loser contestants!)!
The difference between improving your health and losing weight FOR GOOD is that it’s not like playing a sport. You’re not in competition with anyone but yourself. In fact, it was one of the United States’ most bad-ass presidents, Teddy Roosevelt, who said, ‘Comparison is the thief of all joy!’
This is a lesson I learned once I reached my weight loss goals, and fell off the wagon for two months, gaining 20 lbs back. While staying in good health and good physical condition is obviously my livelihood, there are plenty of family health issues that have effected or taken the lives of family members. Perhaps some part of it is genetic, but quite often at least SOME of their ailments were created by pure negligence to adequately take care of themselves.
I REFUSE to play Russian Roulette with my health or my livelihood ever again. This doesn’t mean that I’m going to be perfect, because outside of a one-time performance, constant perfection 24/7/365 is UNOBTAINABLE! That being said, you have to always take your setbacks in stride, and make the necessary adjustments so that going forward, these don’t happen again (or at the very least, not nearly as often).
In regards to healthy eating, there are now more than enough healthy food brands, delivery services, and recipes online that will enable you to have your cake and eat it, too, without the negative health consequences. To learn more about some of that, check out my Food Guide and Healthy Recipe Book at www.weightlossbypete.com/foodguiderecipes.
With getting enough sleep, this is just something you have to prioritize if you want to keep your body’s hormones and various systems working optimally FOR YOU! Lastly, it’s often on the days that you don’t feel like getting out and moving that you’ll have your best workouts…
Case in Point: There are going to be days, or even weeks where you don’t feel like staying on your discipline. Consistent practice is difficult, and sometimes, we’re simply not going to do it. That being said, what differentiates a successful person from a failure is simply the one who nips bad habits in the bud, and moves forward with renewed enthusiasm each and every time.
Enjoy your Wednesday!
P.S. As I mentioned yesterday, I just opened up a NEW group on Facebook. This is piggybacking off the Holiday Jump Start Program I did for the past eight weeks, and is something that many of the group members wanted to continue going into the future!
This group provides members with daily accountability, a weekly group call specific to the members and their questions, a monthly book club reviewing a piece of literature on all things health and wellness, and a lifetime’s worth of mindset shifts and lifestyle changes via these books, my coaching, and my own materials on fitness, mindset, and nutrition. It’s BY FAR the most affordable program I’ve offered to date, and may be just what you need to kick yourself into gear with the Holiday Season in full swing.
To learn more, and to join us, please go to www.weightlossbypete.com/group. Hope to see you on the inside! 😉