It’s a sunny, cold day here on Long Island, and I’m fresh off a great weekend! I got to hang out with some friends Friday night, locked down a nice new cottage that my girlfriend and I will be moving into come February on Saturday, and of course, played softball yesterday (on Sunday). Hope your weekend went well, too!
If you’ve been following me for at least a week, then you know that I have a FREE group on Facebook: The Permanent Weight Loss Community. It’s for folks looking to lose 50 or more lbs, who have or are looking to prevent (a) chronic disease(s), and are looking to avoid a weight loss surgery that will do nothing but yield a grueling recovery and temporary results. To join us, please go to https://www.facebook.com/groups/pwl50plus/and answer the three questions posed upon your request. If I feel you’ll be a good fit, I’ll add you to the group within 24 hours 😉
Yesterday afternoon, I made a post welcoming some of the new members to the group. Most of them will either ‘Like’ this type of post, or just say something along the lines of ‘Thank you’ in the Comments section. One group member, whose name and profile picture I’ve marked out due to privacy reasons, said this in the thread:
The thread was pretty crammed as you can see, so it was tough to accurately crop her previous comment right above it, which was of her saying that she really needed help and guidance to lose weight.
I won’t lie to you: Permanent Weight Loss is an emotional journey. We always tend to focus on the physical, but at the end of the day, to use one of my favorite baseball analogies by the late, great Yogi Berra, ‘Baseball is 90% mental, and the other half is physical!’ In this case, we’ll obviously swap out the word ‘baseball’ for the words ‘Permanent Weight Loss,’ and you’ll get the gist 😉
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: You can have the best exercise and nutrition programs in the world, but if you haven’t worked out the self-sabotaging kinks that are going on between the ears, your chances of succeeding in any sustainable capacity are slim-to-none!
As someone who’s been there and done that (I’ve lost 100 lbs, remember?), I can understand why you would begin to say things like this new group member said: You believe you know what to do, and yet you’re holding yourself back from actually executing on it.
What’s going on there? Why can’t we follow through when we know what needs to be done?
I’ve been told more than a few times by friends, family, clients, and group members that I have a tendency to be too nice and too patient with people. Instead of doing what I normally do when a controversial topic arises, I’m going to stop closing up on you and I’m going to be blunt: The reason that someone will start to feel anger and hatred towards themselves is because they know that they’re NOT willing to do what’s necessary to make a change, and thus, improve their situation in order to reach their goals. Instead, they’re going to come up with excuses time and time again for their continued inaction and lack of progress.
Here’s a perfect and relevant example: It’s the Holiday Season! I’ve been in this ‘business’ 10 years. How many times do you think I’ve seen clients, group members, friends, and family fall off the wagon from late November until right after New Year’s? It happens EVERY. SINGLE. YEAR!
Most of us have been trained this collective group think where it’s like, ‘Ah, it’s OK! It’s the Holidays! Let’s fuck up now, and get back on track in the New Year!’ The same holds true when summer hits: It’s time for decompression, summer BBQs and travel. We’ll get back to our health in the fall once the kids are back in school and work picks up again…
Cool. You do that. Lord knows that gyms love that mentality when they’re charging your credit card monthly without you even stepping foot in the facility! In fact, they thrive on it. Here are some fun facts about gym memberships according to statisticbrain.com: The average gym membership in the US is $58. How much of that $58 do members take advantage of? A whopping $19, and that’s because they completely underutilize their gym’s facilities.
Another fun fact: What percentage of gym members actually use their membership? Just 33%! That’s 67% of gym members who do NOT even frequent their gyms, despite that membership charge recurring on their credit card statements over and over and over each and every month!!
I once had a friend of mine who’s a psychologist tell me that she has (Or had – I can’t remember) a patient that pays over $200 per month on a gym membership, and yet this patient has not ONCE stepped foot in the gym since her initial sign-up! How long has she been a member to this gym, you ask? THREE YEARS!!! And yet she goes in for her therapy appointment every single week, and practically every time complains about how she hates herself because of how much weight she’s gained.
The first step in any endeavor is always the hardest part. If you’ve been sedentary and if you’ve acquired an addiction to grainy, processed, and sugary foods, then the first 2-4 weeks are going to be tough. There’s no if’s, and’s, or but’s about it! That being said, most of us are LUCKY, in that we have the CHOICE to make the change, and outside of having the unwanted weight, we’re in relatively good health. And even if we’re not, barring life-threatening diseases like heart disease, neurological conditions, and various forms of cancer, we can prevent, or even REVERSE many chronic gateway diseases like obesity and Type-2 Diabetes.
It’s important to TAKE ACTION when something in our lives needs improvement. We can do all the research and watch all the YouTube videos about what we’re looking to achieve in the world, but until you get in the ring and you get your hands dirty, you’re just simply NOT going to do anything positive for yourself.
I hope you found this helpful, and I hope that this inspired you to take action! You know how to stop those negative feelings towards yourself in your tracks? By DOING! Thinking about doing things that are tough will drive you crazy. Taking that first step and seeing your first set of results? If that doesn’t motivate you, I don’t know what will!
Until tomorrow 😉
P.S. If you feel you need the accountability and the guidance to help get you going, I just opened up a NEW group on Facebook. This is piggybacking off the Holiday Jump Start Program I did for the past eight weeks, and is something that many of the group members wanted to continue going into the future!
This group provides members with daily accountability, a weekly group call specific to the members and their questions, and a lifetime’s worth of mindset shifts and lifestyle changes via both my coaching and my materials on fitness, mindset, and nutrition. It’s BY FAR the most affordable program I’ve offered to date, and may be just what you need to kick yourself into gear with the Holiday Season in full swing.
To learn more, and to join us, please go to www.weightlossbypete.com/group. Hope to see you on the inside! 😉