Ah, it’s Monday! Another start to another week. Were you naughty or were you nice this weekend??? :-p
It’s a HOT, sunny day here on Long Island, and with a much-deserved ‘light’ day, I was able to have some fun by doing things like finishing House of Cards on Netflix, doing a testimonial interview for my web designer (she’s the best!), and cleaning up the apartment a bit. Tonight, I’ll be finishing this Monday off with a 6 PM client session, followed by a softball doubleheader. It’s funny – As I write this to you and I look to my right, I can see my dog baking out on my terrace overlooking the neighborhood. When it gets hot and humid like it is today, he absolutely LOVES doing this!
Check it out for yourself:
Now then, I wanted to run something by you: I’m thinking of having a theme to each daily post I send out. If you go on social media sites like Twitter or Instagram, you’ll see hashtags like #mondaymotivation, #transformationtuesday, etc., and I’m thinking that we’ll give that a whirl going forward.
Before I go on into today’s message, if you have feedback on this daily theme idea for future emails, please EMAIL ME with your thoughts. My email is ‘pete (at) weightlossbypete (dot) com’ 🙂
I touched on this a few days ago, but I wanted to get into it more extensively… How to handle social pressure when dealing with poor food or beverage choices!
Look, I can understand how hard it is to feel like you’re NOT fitting in! Whether you’re out at a bar, or you’re at a summer BBQ, or you’re at a wedding reception, there are ample amounts of unhealthy drinks, appetizers and meals that can get you to fall off the wagon HARD…
That being said, there’s a SIMPLE concept we have to internalize in order to NOT give in during these situations: Only WE have control of what we put into our mouths!
So, that piece of cake looks delicious… That doesn’t mean you have to eat it!
So, that cold beer looks nice on a hot summer day… So is a cold bottle of water!
Something I hear constantly from people looking to lose weight is that ‘It’s so hard!’ to say ‘No’ when we’re so used to saying ‘Yes.’ And depending on who you surround yourself with, perhaps it is tougher for you than it is for others.
For me, I can care less what anyone with me thinks. I remember last summer after my first weeknight softball games, where me and a few of my teammates went out to a local bar afterwards. Instead of ordering my customary beer (or five), I got a gin and seltzer. My co-captain on the team looked at me, and was like, ‘Ew! What the fuck?’
I proceeded to tell him why I traded in the beer for the gin, and that was the end of it!
It’s funny – Whenever a potentially uncomfortable situation presents itself, we think of the worst-case scenario… Sure, it’s good to be prepared for the worst things to come, but I’d say that whatever our minds conjure up based off of fear rarely, if ever, happens…
A client of mine once caved because they had just started a new job, went out for drinks with co-workers, and felt uncomfortable saying ‘No’ to the beer, wings and whatever else was ordered. At WORST, 98% of the time, you’ll be asked why you’re not partaking in what everyone else is, and your justification of ‘I’m looking to lose weight and get healthier’ will be all that needs to be said on the subject.
Another client of mine once caved because older relatives had prepared delicious but unhealthy meals for them, and they felt bad telling their older relatives that they weren’t going to eat it. While this is certainly tough in the moment, lay out for these relatives that going forward, you’re making a healthy lifestyle shift, and that entails what you eat. Tell them what NOT to prepare for you, and perhaps send them a healthier recipe of the same dish to prepare so nobody has to feel guilty.
This can easily done by either Googling ‘healthy recipe for….,’ or by sending them my Healthy Recipe Book, which you can get here: www.weightlossbypete.com/healthyrecipes
At the end of the day, we have to come to terms with the fact that this is OUR life! I see life through MY eyes, and so, I’m going to do what’s best for me, my health and my success. It sounds selfish and self-centered, and in some ways, it is!
That being said, think of the safety presentation on airplanes right before take-off. Fast forward to the part where the flight attendants are discussing the potential deployment of oxygen masks if the plane were to lose cabin pressure. You’re supposed to help yourself first BEFORE helping others – This includes both the elderly and small children!
Because if you go to help everyone else before yourself, the chances of you maintaining consciousness, and even staying alive are slim-to-none. It’s nice when little Johnny or little Sue have their masks on, but if you pass out and there’s no conscious adult present to help walk the kids through what’s next, they’re just as, if not MORE endangered, than when the masks were first deployed.
This analogy is meant to emphasize that you can’t possibly serve the people or the things closest to you at your best if you don’t put yourself first. In terms of nutrition, this may result in some awkward questions and even some weird looks from friends, family and coworkers who are used to you eating and drinking a certain way, but at the end of the day, if they truly care for you, they’ll respect your decision and will let it be.
The Main Takeaway: DON’T give in! Peer pressure to do something harmful isn’t worth worrying about. Like your parents used to say, ‘If your friends went to go jump off a bridge, would you go and do it, too?!’
P.S. I wanted to tell you about my client, Nicole’s, results after LESS THAN A MONTH on my Nutrition Program!
Nicole had been stuck in a plateau for a long time, and after following me for about a year, decided to give things a whirl. After a preliminary doctor’s visit that did a thorough analysis of her weight, measurements and body fat percentage, she went back just under a month later, and received these AMAZING results:
9 lbs, 6% body fat, 4.5 inches, and 1.6 BMI down in LESS THAN A MONTH! How cool is that?!
So, like in the message I sent out yesterday, and to piggyback on what I wrote today, if you’re READY to make a healthy, sustainable and PERMANENT change, then let’s chat!
I have some Strategy Call spots open for this week, and I’d LOVE to help you get healthy and lose weight once and for all 🙂
To schedule your FREE call, please go to www.weightlossbypete.com/strategy, and select a date and time that works for you. PLEASE watch out for the confirmation email, as it will send a link to you with a Health Questionnaire. This form will help give me the best background towards how I can help you, and what changes you can make RIGHT NOW to get you on a path to the promised land.
That link again is www.weightlossbypete.com/strategy. I look forward to speaking with you soon!